While many men are happily surrendering control of their wardrobes,
they’re making up for it with more strident points of view in other areas. This is in evidence with the rise of personal advice columns and guides, an area historically dominated by women
created by men. Here are three examples of where new sources of counsel reflecting the male perspective are finding a niche in modern media.
The Man’s Guide to Love
: Everyone assumes that most men would rather swim cage-free with a Great White shark
than share their feelings. But responses have been plentiful since The Man’s Guide to Love website posed the question, “If you had one piece of advice that you’d give another man about love, what would it be?” Hundreds of men of all ages, ethnicities and backgrounds have imparted their replies in brief video segments that range from cynical to poignant. Yet, a common thread of naked honesty binds each posting, giving not only their fellow males but also members of the fairer sex a glimpse into the deepest reaches of the male psyche.
Ask A Dude
: Most women relate to the experience of seeking
the key that decodes the cryptic minds of men. The Hairpin
embraced that desire when it launched Ask A Dude. With the promise of candid feedback, the forum allows women to ask a typical guy's guy
the burning questions that confound them. For example, “How long into a conversation does a lady need to reveal she has a boyfriend?”
(Answer: “As soon as possible.”) The rotation of anonymous men who reply lend a humorous spin to the sometimes awkward questions. Though the bloggers are self-described “dudes
,” they work more like practiced therapists as they rally for self-confidence among their inquisitive readers.
: Stumped about what to do after mistakenly emailing a personal message to your entire contact list? Author, poet and professor Wayne Koestenbaum
wants to help. “Dear Wayne, I’ve been humiliated” is a video series that was created to promote his new book, Humiliation
. Wayne empathizes with, and reacts to, people’s most mortifying experiences and presents unconventional solutions for damage control. Beyond that, he looks at the psychological side of embarrassment, and offers an alternative perspective in an effort to “take the epicenter of the shame, and turn it around into your identity, somehow." While some stories function as cautionary tales, Wayne always manages to find a silver lining.